The quest for being patient and aggressive in situations is interesting for practical reason I appreciate. However it is our judgmental attitude which has an error and needs polishing. Why not we think for only one thing to start with and be patient where the mind is prodding to be aggressive irrespective if that is a right condition. This habit can help in maintaining harmony with outer environment and for sure would not harm others can feel harmed at times but don’t feel bad as time shall able to forget with no big patch to really bother in future. Important is that it would not be as simple as written; the mind would need a determination and shall require a free will initially.

If we initiate we shall encounter the struggle within us between a true self and ego where our strong determination is able to help in controlling the ego of mind to be silent. This practice alone may not help unless we also induct discipline in our life. Self-discipline is the need that can be understood when we are aware and following minimum discipline for maintaining healthy body and mind. However after knowing the value of physical and mental discipline we have to add spiritual discipline is very important as a solution of the query.

Use of heart or rationalizing on emotions has to be learnt along with our logic or reasoning by our conditioned mind has to be balanced. I have been writing this by balancing energies as one method but can have many route. When we add spiritual discipline by way of devotion to God by prayers or chanting mantras and or interest in reading holy books or spiritual texts we try to keep our mind away from worldly objects for a while. Thus it is value we develop which practice in life makes us what we desire or work towards.

Some people by nature are aggressive. There is a thing as “Righteous Anger”. We know this, I suppose there is reason for it, but only in a true caring. No violence, as we cannot fill a sandal that we are not fit to tie the laces of . Nor should we be tempted to physically try. But here in the writing? I get up a bit. It's about odd things too. The Casual dismissal of our fellow man, This should not be, As a people We are spiritually bankrupt, in this, we should be physically giving. Coldness will never be corrected in anger.

We then have your rule: We will be patient, As fear is the fuel of evil. If, one loves enough to find a cause for anger in which fear is absent, Then it is not anger, but rather justice, that we satisfy. When we are serious about self-discipline there are hosts variety of variables acting as hurdle which try to arrest by calming the mind and wisdom coming out as a result making a gem out of us. The process could help us in creating an art where our wisdom dictates now to be patient of listen without reacting or criticize as much needed that could have the needed affect without a loss in relationship where it is important.

There is no short cut procedure and one has to work hard continuously with an aim to become a good human being when eventually s/he could start commanding a respect from people. However, premeditated aggression and forced patience is what we should be able to show but it is generally not manageable. There are emotional inputs. Patience is practiced by many, being easier. Showing aggression in a controlled manner or curbing habit requires self-training. Once we feel safe in doing as per the situation, proper triggers will help us. Mainly it is ‘acting’ like we see in dramas and movies. We should avoid being aggressor. We should do that only when someone gets benefited through that act. Cheers!