Stay Happy, Be Rich

Research on how to increase positive moods and capitalize on your strengths has proliferated in recent years, thanks to the positive psychology movement, and has shed light on ongoing insights into our personality, mood, and cognition that goes with it. I am no therapist, nor do I pretend to be one, but I am committed to being honest and authentic with people, and show them what would motivate them to be happy. There are countless ways to bring happiness in lives of others and bring smile to them. You get back what you give, after all that’s the Law of Nature.

 All of us have an innate capacity for happiness and being wealthy because we are resilient beings. As a matter of fact everyone deserves to be happy just because we are alive. Happiness is absolutely necessary to help us evaluate everything around us. Denying ourselves the right to be happy is not only incomprehensible, and inconceivable but downright irreprehensible. If we are constantly fearing, or lamenting, or grieving, we continue to suffer and stop growing. Happiness brings with it more joy, more competence, more productivity, and more success. The key paradigm is to realign your focus and diminish stress that comes from a narrowly defined focus. Studying and admiring rich successful people I learned that there is a thread of consistency that runs through them: they do not worry about money and each had a strong unshakeable belief in their own ability to see the grand picture, loved their lives and had great self-esteem. There is a correlation between less worrying and success. Less worrying equates to more success in life for too much worrying creates fear, and fear prevents an individual to move upward and forward with their full potential. Worrying about not having enough will only attract the negative thoughts and you end up with “nothing” in actuality.

If we constantly pray only for “more wealth”, it is likely that our prayers will go unanswered because there is a trace of selfishness inherent in that prayer. Instead if one replaced it by simply asking God to make you an “instrument of hope” for others your chances of such a prayer being accepted is greater. Any time you give of yourself, whether it is money, ideas, time, energy or love, you are bound to receive more; for it is in the “giving that we receive abundance”. Actually giving is an energy which by helping others creates an even more powerful energy in them. Everything you give today will come back to you in manifold. That in pure simplistic term is another Law of the Universe, designed to keep things in “balance”. It is no great accomplishment trying to do great things when all that is required from each of us is to do “small things with great love.” It is often said that “the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step” and this is why in order to do something we need to take the first step, and with each step that we take we initiate a process that will bring us closer to our goals whatever they be. To arrive at a specific destination, you have to start at some point. It is unnecessary to look too far ahead over the horizon or too far back, and it is necessary to focus on the present (being in the present or in the moment as the saying goes) and follow the grand design. Success does not happen overnight. It is as a result of hard work and experience built and acquired over a time. It is an on-going continuous process with short intervals in between to pause, re-focus and realign the course of the journey. We keep postponing our “journey to change’ in the hope conditions will change over the next week or the next month when in reality nothing really changes in life unless we take control and change it ourselves.It is our experiences in life that make us happier. Experiences form "powerful and important memories”.

One of the problems why some people do not or cannot succeed in life or find the happiness that they are constantly looking for is the notion of “attachment” and “caring”. We are all born free, and technically when we are born we are detached from our mother’s womb at birth. This detachment does not mean that we become “non-attached” to our mothers and become uncaring. However, in order to move forward in life it is necessary to become non-attached to an outcome, and to become emotionally free, because all sorts of attachment create fear, and sets in motion negative thoughts that destroy our inner self-confidence. When there are no attachments to material things in life, there are no pressures to perform or succeed.

The only form of attachment which is helpful in achieving success comes from strong unshakeable faith and belief in God, and to understand and realize that the Hand that made all of us is Divine. This feeling which is both an exhilaration and enthusiasm brings great joy and success to virtually everything a human being does. It is this passionate feeling and attachment that helps to keep us focused fully in the present “moment of time and truth” in our lives. It sees to it that our mind does not wander off from the “reality”. Too many of us live in the moments past or future yet to unfold.

To be successful and wealthy it is also necessary to develop the ability to meditate and reflect on one’s life for reflection brings to life the truth of what is really going on by helping to remove the blind spots in our thinking. These two abilities require a strong desire to change from within. Every successful person will in his or her life time be confronted with or face frustrations, hurdles and fear of change. To be successful requires transcending the problems because every problem has a solution. There is more than one way to get where you want to be without dwelling on problems and frustrations. Staying focused and reflecting on what is required to accomplish the goals is what will get rid of the problems.

Happiness, gladness, or joy is defined as a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. There is a connection between positive psychological attributes, such as happiness, optimism, and life satisfaction. It is happiness that makes us acceptable and attractive to others. Some people seem to radiate magnetism and grace. You can too. All of us can change our temperament and our mood. One has to have a positive attitude against all odds. Without such positive mindset, human beings are unfortunate. All the unfortunate human beings are unhappy. To a certain degree emotional well-being rises with income rise but our day-to-day happiness does not increase with higher incomes. In life we have met many individuals who are loaded with money and involved in lawsuits, tax matters, ethical issues, matrimonial problems, health problems, not one of them is really happy. Sometimes some such rich folks are more unfortunate than a beggar. Rejoice – you are alive and healthy. The Benevolent and Merciful Lord has a Plan for you, and it will soon unfold bringing you happiness.