April is Stress Awareness Month
This year itâs needed more than ever, with 50% of peopleâs wellbeing worsening during lockdown (for those whoâve been working from home, that rockets to a whopping 80%). Howâs that extra stress affecting your peopleâs performance?
Awareness events are a great way to open up conversations which otherwise might not happen, but awareness on its own doesnât change anything. Awareness doesnât make anyone healthier. Change needs action, and thatâs where it can start to get tough. Because weâre mostly pretty rubbish at doing whatâs good for us.
New habits can be hard to set, especially when youâre already feeling stretched or overloaded. Thatâs why so many attempts to manage stress end up yo-yoing. The stress builds up and gets uncomfortable. We know itâs not good for us, so we start to do something differently â whether thatâs delegating more, talking things through with someone supportive, or taking time to explore mindfulness.
If it works, we start to feel better. Whatever we were doing differently tails off, and we find ourselves right back to square one. Over the years Iâve supported so many people whoâd found themselves stuck in those yo-yoing cycles. Every cycle draining away more energy, and reinforcing the belief that real change was just too hard.
But getting past that 'stuck' can happen a lot more smoothly than you might have imaginedâ¦.
My take on good wellbeing, is that itâs all about the balance between the total load youâre experiencing â your worries, stresses, frustrations and upsets. And all the different resources that you have for dealing with that load, both within yourself, and resources you have outside of you - like being able to talk things through with someone supportive, or getting some help with a challenge youâre facing. Keeping that load less than the resources, keeps you well.
When youâre feeling stressed or overloaded, the most obvious course of action is to do something about whatâs causing it â to do something about the loads. But especially at the moment, so many of those loads are ones we canât do anything about. You might be missing friends or family who youâve not been able to see. Or your favourite sport, or a hobby thatâs been stopped during restrictions.
When the biggest of those loads are ones you canât change, itâs easy to get stuck. But remember, that over all balance is between all the loads, and all the resources. So even if you canât sort out the biggest of the loads, doing something about the smaller ones can still free up some of your resources for dealing with the rest more smoothly.
So take a few moments, and a deep breath or two. Step back, and take a look at what the loads are. Whatâs bothering, frustrating or upsetting you? Because when there are a lot of them, itâs easy for them to sort of blend into each other, into a formless mess of life not co-operating. We donât always take time to put a finger on whatâs actually bothering us, and itâs a good place to start. So pick one â just one for now. It doesnât even really matter which one. And take some action.
You might not be able to sort it out completely, but doing something to make it a bit smaller, a bit less scary, feels better. And taking action helps to keep your mind at its most resourceful, so you start to spot other things you can do about other loads. And that 'stuck' starts to ease.
Getting unstuck feels better â itâs what happens next that makes all the difference. Because the only way to stop those yo-yoing cycles is to keep going. Keep taking those few moments to check in on how youâre feeling, looking at the loads and your resources, and keep taking action to maintain that balance. Be proactive. Be curious. Mix things up so it stays fresh and interesting. Keep learning. Be willing to experiment, because stuck only happens when you stand still.
Not all stress is bad. Itâs your bodyâs way of making you pay attention to something which isnât as youâd like. To something where thereâs potential harm. That discomfortâs meant to get you to take action - whether thatâs paying your bills on time, studying for that important exam, or talking things through with someone you care about so that differences in opinion donât escalate to falling out⦠As long as those stresses stay matched by your resources for dealing with them, they can bring out your very best. The stresses which you learn and grow from. The stresses which give life meaning.
So how do you get more of the stresses which work, and less of those which get in the way? Thatâs what I wrote âThe Problem Solversâ Guide to Keeping Stress Usefulâ to support, introducing the stress converter process, and some straightforward skills for getting your system off that uncomfortable high alert. So if youâre ready to break those yo-yoing stress cycles for good, you can get your complimentary copy at http://www.resolve-stress.com/useful-guide
Sue Evans has helped thousands of people to break free from yo-yo stressing, embedding the skills to keep stress useful. Sheâs delivered £multi-million change programmes for international organisations, experiencing time and time again how we donât always do whatâs good for us, even when what weâre doing isnât working. To find out more about the skills to update the mindâs autopilot, how they work, and the differences they can make in your organisation, go to fast-pathways.com
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3yBrilliant article Sue, I like the balance approach. I'm off to downlaod the guide now!
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3yI had never seen stress in such a way before Sue Evans being aware of the benefits when matched with resources has been like an epiphany to me and yet now I read it again it is so beautifully obvious- why isnât this stuff taught before we reach puberty and life begins to take hold???? Thank you, loved this article ð
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3yI think the key takeaway here is getting some external help, such as talking to you! It's really hard to manage the balance between negative stress and stress that helps you get your finger out and achieve things, and sometimes it's hard to manage that balance yourself. Sounds like reading your book would also be a good first step!
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3yWhat a generous gift, Sue Evans and I love the article. I try and break my loads into smaller bits but I've learned form experience that they thing that gives me most stress relief is by tackling it (albeit it bit by bit) and not following the advice of some others which is walk away and do something else, that just makes it worse!
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3yWhat surprised me about this Sue Evans was that people who have been working at home have been extra-stressed. I wonder how much that was to do with home-schooling for many and now children are back at school, that has reduced. I know from my team (admittedly most either too young or too old) to have school-age kids, many have loved working at home.