In life we come across people, events, environmental changes and too many choices at times which make us feel helpless and frustrated. Some of these we can change. There we look at possibilities and take action to correct or improve. Mahatma Gandhi said- be the change you wish to see in others.

However, in some cases nobody can change the outside world/ people. Examples of important changes and possible action could be:

Common Actions:

ü  Be aware of the impact- worst case scenario. Jot is down.

ü  Take care to be protected yourself by following a healthy routine of adequate rest, regular exercise/ games and good food.

ü  Make a written list of your achievements- throughout life and acknowledge yourself.

ü  Make a written list of blessings we normally take for granted specific to environment, person and practice deliberate gratitude.

ü  Accept self for what we are and what we are not first. Forgive ourself for mistakes committed. Then do this exercise for others as part of compassionate empathy.

ü  Limit mindless addiction like watching news, mobile, social media, video games.

ü  Choose a support system and company of non-judgemental people and in severe times opt for counselling/ therapy.

ü  Practice relaxation through silence/ mindfulness and meditation.

ü  Keep active- keep moving as much as possible.

ü  Improve your thoughts and beliefs by looking at the positive aspects of the person/ choice.  

ü  Look at what is that you can do to resolve/ support others and do it. Find a new purpose. Start with small acts of contribution.

Readers may add other examples. Look at that which are whether they are permanent / pervasive/ personal to self. If not controllable then we need to accept.

Gautama Buddha observed that security comes from trading expectation for acceptance.

Accept that which we cannot change- the beginning of the best part of life.