In my experience, we should : 1) Listen actively and without judgment. 2) Acknowledge their feelings. 3. Ask gentle, open-ended questions. 4. Encourage self-reflection. 5. Address underlying fears. 6. Celebrate small wins. This approach will build trust and help clients feel comfortable exploring their emotions. What do you think all guys?

To help a client who is defensive about exploring emotions, it’s essential to use a non-directive coaching communication style, which fosters trust and reduces resistance. Start by introducing the topic of emotional intelligence through a neutral approach, like presenting it as a skillset that can enhance both personal and professional growth. Using assessments such as the Emotional Quotient Inventory (EQ-i) or the MSCEIT can provide an objective perspective and serve as a starting point for discussion. From there, employ techniques like active listening, reflective questioning, and exercises such as the Emotional Awareness Journal to gradually build comfort and openness in exploring their emotional landscape.

Showing respect is the first thing (respect the time they take to answer, the short answers they give, for instance). No judgements and then create a safe space. Asking the right questions, first superficial, going deep slowly, is the second thing to do. It is important to lead them to understand the why-why they believe it is not “safe” to explore emotions-and support them to embrace it. Giving them time to think and reply. That “silent” moment helps. Try not to put in your words what they said about what “exploring emotions” is. Remember we all give different meanings for the same things. Use their expressions and definitions. Then help them building an own safe space where they can control how far they can go exploring emotions.

1.Create Safety: Build trust and a judgment-free space. 2.Ask Questions: Encourage reflection with open-ended questions. 3.Normalize Emotions: Reassure them that emotions are natural. 4.Start Small: Discuss lighter topics first. 5.Listen Actively: Validate their feelings. 6.Use Mindfulness: Introduce techniques to connect with emotions. 7.Highlight Benefits: Emphasize positive outcomes. 8.Be Patient: Acknowledge the time it takes. 9.Encourage Self-Compassion: Remind them to be gentle with themselves. 10.Follow Up: Regularly check in on their progress. This concise approach can help them open up emotionally.

Emotional navigation is crucial, especially for clients with ADHD, who may instinctively build defences against exploring their feelings. To help them break down these barriers, I recommend employing a compassionate approach emphasising safety and trust. Techniques such as active listening and reflective questioning can encourage clients to express their emotions without fear of judgment. Additionally, integrating focus-driven strategies can help them manage distractions, allowing for deeper emotional exploration. By creating a supportive environment, we empower clients to transform their emotional challenges into a blueprint for success, paving the way for personal growth and workplace achievement.